When I was younger, I was so desperate for attention from guys, I lowered my standards and my worth. I allowed guys to treat me badly and be in friends with benefits type situations. I am not proud of it, but this is something I need to talk about.
I keep trying to hold out for the guy that is gonna pop up in my life, but instead I am CONSTANTLY treated like a hook up.
In the past, I would eventually give in to these requests because well I wasn’t being offered anything else.
These days it makes me angry. Because within the last MONTH, not one, not two, but three guys have reached out to me. Even though I have made it clear, I am looking for a real relationship, these guys have the guts to come back and continue to treat me me this way.
I am upset. You could say I deserve it. I put it on myself.
You might be right, yes, I opened that door. It was a door of desperation to feel some kind of love even if it was lust, the lie of love.
Within the last couple of years, I have been trying to close that door. Lock it, seal it, never deal with it again. But men continue to knock and try to open this door.
I am so sick of it. I am angry, because I have been PRAYING for a man. A good christian man to be in my life, and then I am CONSTANTLY dealing with this.
It makes me question my worth. It makes me wonder if this is all I am. It makes me angry with God, like God, why? All of these other women around me are married, in relationships, and I just keep being treated like shit. I don’t understand. I am hurt that this is what is popping up in my life, rather than a real man. Where are you?
I don’t know if this speaks to anyone out there who might be going through something similar. But, something I have had to do is write a list of all the things God says I am, and I have it posted in my room right next to my deodorant, so every time I put it on, I read the list. Sometimes when things happen, I ask myself, “Who does God say I am?” And I start remembering things from my list.
God says I am: Good. Loved. Worthy. Free. Beautiful. Fruitful. Brave. A Leader. A Warrior. IMPORTANT.
If anyone is treating you less than that, move on. Close the door.
Psalm 46:5 (NIV)
5 God is within her, she will not fall;
God will help her at break of day.